The Uppercut

Im deeply disturbed. Not only by what Ive seen but by the reactions of various people. Im speaking of the shocking video clip of the Cleveland bus driver and his famous uppercut he gave to a loud young girl. No one, besides those who were present on that bus are sure how it started exactly, but we all can see how it ended. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B0gLEsjE8Ao Everyone had their opinion & threw their own two cents into it. Now I'll add mine. This girl is sad. She's being totally disrespectful not only to the driver (who is her elder) the other passengers, and not to mention HERSELF. She had no shame in her sharp words and ignorant demeanor. I know Ive spoken on this before, but these young people are from a completely different world. I'd hate to blame it on the parents but are these newer parents bringing them up as firmy as we were? There was a time when we behaved better. Shes also a distraction, not needed. The man is DRIVING! And this rude adolescent is in his ear & mind upsetting him to the point of him snaping on her, putting everyone's life at risk. What if he had crashed the bus? She wouldve been responsible for everyone hurt.

And what of the driver? This is a GROWN man. Old enough to have a granddaughter, as he himself said. He should've had better control of his emotions and actions. He looks a good 200lbs easy. She looked a mere 120. How does that compare? How is that fair? Ok, she hit him. But surely her tap was nothing as strong as the lick he gave her. "She wanna be a man, I'll treat her like a man". But thats just the point. Shes NOT a man! The driver isnt either for that matter. A man, REAL man, would NEVER, EVER raise his hand to a female. No matter what she said or what she did, shes still the "Weaker Vessel." He shouldve been "MAN" enough to walk away. Call the police. Hell, get your granddaughter if its that serious. The situation went way too far. I know sometimes we as women provoke it. We may even tell a man, "Go head hit me! I DARE YOU!" Some women are indeed trifling, and may indeed ask for it, but theres never a reason for that.

The comments under the clip and on twitter in response to this is cruel. People are actually applauding his actions, and encouraging other men to do the same. What kinda people are these? To encourage violence of any kind is beastly. They are completely insensitive and it was sickening. Saying things like, "She deserved it," and "Dont give a lick if you cant take a lick." Again, she was wrong. Dead wrong for provoking this. But he isnt in the right either. We cant beat her down for what she did and yet cheer for the wrong he contributed. Women as well, surprisingly. Laughing and making jokes about it. Sure its funny until its them on the other side of a man's fist. Then they want the police, their fathers', brothers, uncles, ANYONE to come & rescue them & lick their wounds. Females, you cant have it both ways, either you're pro domestic violence or you arent.

I grew up with all types of violence around me. Ive seen things I wish could leave my brain matter. Im sure thats why this hurts me so. Lets give our kids more attention, keep them on the straight and narrow so they dont end up like this poor girl. Lets teach them better, male and female. Maybe in time, the pride and respect will return as strong as it was in generations past. That's Dani's Dose for the day!

Can We Say, "Insecure"?

I am a HUGE fan of social networks. Im in love with Twitter, but I confess to cheating with FaceBook every now and then. When I first opened these accounts & for a long time after, I refused to add a pic of myself. Not that I didnt think I was beautiful, but in my mind those I was addressing would listen & actually think about my comments & take them seriously without being distracted by my looks. Since then, I've noticed an overabundance of females with little to no clothing in thier avis. It doesnt really bother me, since Im not interested in anything they have but I admit to being confused. Lets take a moment to ponder the reason WHY they feel the need to advertise. Me myself, I cant relate but maybe its a desperate act for attention. Could it be they think this is the only way for people to notice them, or to make them feel important? *shrugs* Im sorry but a man isnt listening to ANYTHING you say if you have too much for them to see out in the open. All of their attention is focused on the exposure. I can hear these females now, "Please! I dont need attention. I look good & its my business if I want to show off my body." There is a way to show off your body while still being modest. What kind of example are you setting for your daughters? By looking at you, what opinion are your sons forming about women? Are u not realizing that WE as parents are our children's FIRST teachers? Hmmm.... I saw a woman earlier get mad at a guy for telling her she had "nice tits." She called him "disrespectful." First of all, you have these "nice tits" emerging from your attire. It was indeed your goal for them to be seen, no? Second, if its hanging out for all to see, females, WHY GET ANGRY WHEN MEN LOOK!? Isnt that what you want them to do? How is a man NOT supposed to notice when your goodies are on display? Men love women. They're supposed to enjoy the sight of breasts, hips, thighs, & butts.You cant get mad at men for being what they are: MEN. Third, she was disrespecting HERSELF for taking that pic, underdressed & posting it for all the world to see. Females, this does NOT get you that love, honor & appreciation you want from men. They dont think of you as ladies, but tend to assume the oppostite. Sure, you're sexy, but not in a "Oh wow, I want to get to know her better, maybe take her home to Mama" kinda way. But a cruel, "Oh wow, I'd f*** the hell outta her then throw her away" kinda way. My point is, lets leave something to the imagination & be what God intended us to be: LADIES. That's Dani's dose for the day!

Times They Are a Changing

I was raised to respect not only myself, but my elders and everyone else in my presence. Most of us older than 30 was brought up that way, the "old school" "big mama" way. The kinda upbringing where you were whooped by neighbors if you acted up & then brought home to your parents to be beat again. It seemed extreme at the time but as an adult I see how it was beneficial. We were taught honor, obedience, manners. Traits that seem to be rapidly diminishing. I had an experience today that made me question the way we are raising our kids now. I was minding my own business when someone else called me out of my name just because he thought it would be funny to his peers. It was out of the blue and undeserved. This person and I wasnt even engaged in a conversation, but he observed something about me and chose to rudely bring it to my attention. Granted everyone is entitled to their own opinion. But NO ONE has the right to attempt to take a way the self respect of another individual, crushing their feelings in the process. I wondered where he was taught to be so cruel and obnoxious to someone he doesnt even know. This is unheard of in my mind, the way I was brought up. Even if Im thinking something, it would be totally out of line for me to say it aloud. So, I've come to the conclusion that maybe he was without hometraining or he was born wicked. Either way, I forgive his ignorance. My point is, respect one another because the bible says, "You reap what you sow" and the good book NEVER lies. That's Dani's dose for the day!

The Children ARE our future!

            What is going on in this world today? It is frightening to see, as time moves along, cases of child abuse becoming more popular. Are we so stressed with the pains and anxieties of everyday life that we see fit to take it out on those who are the most defenseless against us? Our children, our babies, those who look to us for protection FROM harm, and come TO us when scared. How dare we take advantage of their innocence and vulnerability?

             This woman went into the wal-mart to shop on a sunny day. It must have been a relief to go inside in the airconditioning since it was over 90 degrees outside. 45 minutes she stayed, shopping, snacking, enjoying herself. All the while her 2-month old baby boy stayed locked inside her car outside in the heat with all the windows rolled up. It was OVER 100 degrees inside the car! Now, I don't care how forgetful a person may be, YOU NEVER FORGET YOUR BABY! There was no way she could say, "Oh, I forgot he was back there." She was not fooling me or anyone else. The truth was, she didn't want that boy and hoped he would die in the car. How cruel can you be? Im not a cursing woman but when I saw this on the news, I had a few cross words leave my mouth. Really, if she didn't want him to begin with, why not give him away instead of trying to hurt him? Besides having a fever and a high temperature, the baby was fine. Thank God.

            There was an incident in a day care center last week that had me crying. BAWLING. Some crazy chick put a baby in a hot tub/sink and left him there with the hot water running. He ended up with 2nd and 3rd degree burns on his back, legs, butt, and get this, HIS PRIVATES! The news even showed pictures of his burned flesh, and I couldn't take it. I turned the channel and my head away, and sobbed to myself. Her excuse? She said she didn't know the water was that hot. They closed the day care center down but the damage to the baby was already done! What kind of idiotic crap was that? You ALWAYS check the temperature of water before you sit a baby or small child in it. Even if she didn't know the water was hot(which she did)you NEVER leave a baby or small child in water unattended! Everyone knows that, so how come she, someone who's occupation is taking care of babies and small children, didn't know that? She was not fooling me or anyone else. The truth was she just didn't care. She deliberately burned that boy and got some kind of small, sick satisfaction from hurting him.

           It is evident what Jesus said how "in the last days people would have no natural affection."(2 Tim 3:3) It used to be all abusers were men, it was inconceivable that a female could ever hurt a child! But now we see there are as much women abusers as there are men. They will get what they deserve when locked away in prison with other mothers. Mothers who would give their left arm to be with their kids and can't because of doing time for other crimes. They don't appreciate the women who come in for hurting children. They let them have it, and they should! What the court system needs to do along with forcing them to do time, is let them experience EXACTLY what it was they did to that child. Let them feel that excruciating pain! Let them call out for help and not recieve it! Let them scream in agony! Then allow the family members of the child to come in each and every day and beat the living $#!% out of them! EVERY SINGLE DAY! I bet they won't hurt anyone else if they're still alive when their sentence is over.

           Please, people. If you don't want children, be responsible when having sex. If you can't manage parenting or find it intolerable, GIVE THEM AWAY. There is an overabundance of couples who will gladly take them. If your child is old enough to speak and you have to leave them in someone else's care, talk to them. Ask them questions about what goes on when parents aren't around. Show up unannounced and observe. Basically just do whatever necessary to make sure your child and others' as well are safe. I just don't condone hurting children. Not because I know what it's like to be that hurt child, (although I do know) but because I am a GENUINE human being. Yes, sensitive to the heartbreak of others. Take care of these kids, remember they are the future, and the way they turn out depends on us adults. If you are the ones going around abusing, rest assure that your time will come! Revenge is a B!%&3! That's Dani's dose for the day.



             

                     Respect Your Elders?


     Remember that old command to respect your elders? I was taught to do that too. So who are our elders? Who do you think of when you think of "elders"? I always picture in my head really old people with white hair who gave you sweets, told you stories, and wore sweaters smelling of moth balls and menthol. One dictionary defines it plainly as, "an older person." Well that could be anyone older than yourself. Meaning, as a kid, I had to pretty much respect everyone and anyone besides my younger brothers. I never had a problem with this obligation. It wasn't until I was an adult that I wondered, "What if that elder does not respect me?" or "What if that elder isn't deserving of respect?" Hmmmm? What do you do then?

           I was in a clothing store earlier this week. Walking among the racks checking for goodies.  I was not in the mood for any foolishness, but of course it was in the mood for me. Swiftly moving from one rack to the next was quite unpleasant since the aisles were cramped with merchandise. Seeing what I was looking for I ease on down the aisle when I had to stop short. There was a woman blocking the entire aisle. Not an old woman, mind you. She looked to be maybe 50-55, around my mother's age, just old enough to be past the whole drama phase. I started to just wait until she finished until I realized she was just standing there, staring at the wall. I shook my head, clearly she can see she's standing in the way. Turning all the way around and going back the other way would take too much time and effort. I politely said, "Excuse me." Her lips frowned and pushed out a little. Her eyes closed slowly and opened again as if I were a worrysome child tugging on her coat sleeve. I was no more than 3 inches from her head so I know she saw me if not heard me. Her feet stood firmly in place, she did not budge. "Okay." I thought. "Maybe she's another Helen Keller and can't see or hear." I gave her the benefit of the doubt. "EXCUSE ME." I said again, this time a bit louder and firmer. Nothing on her body moved, except her eyes. She rolled them at me! That's when the old command jumped into my head again. I could hear my mother's voice, "Respect your elders." But by this time Im pissed off. What would you do? 

           In my head I tell her, "Now I've tried to be polite, and still you want to act ignorant. So if I knock you to the floor, kick you repeatedly while you're down there and then step over you, it's not my fault right? I seriously thought of doing just that. I look at her again, nose in the air, lips turned up in irritation. What could I do? I pushed past her! If she wouldn't move on her own accord, I'd make her move! I used the force of my body to bump her body out of the aisle and out of my path. This way, I kept my mother's command to respect my elders. I didn't disrespect her by cursing at her, yelling obscenities at the top of my lungs and draw attention to us both. I didn't knock her down and beat her til the white meat showed like I thought to do. No, I just merely helped her to a decision she was delayed in making. Continue to do like your Mama says: Always respect your elders! Haha! That's Dani's Dose for the day.