The Uppercut

Im deeply disturbed. Not only by what Ive seen but by the reactions of various people. Im speaking of the shocking video clip of the Cleveland bus driver and his famous uppercut he gave to a loud young girl. No one, besides those who were present on that bus are sure how it started exactly, but we all can see how it ended. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B0gLEsjE8Ao Everyone had their opinion & threw their own two cents into it. Now I'll add mine. This girl is sad. She's being totally disrespectful not only to the driver (who is her elder) the other passengers, and not to mention HERSELF. She had no shame in her sharp words and ignorant demeanor. I know Ive spoken on this before, but these young people are from a completely different world. I'd hate to blame it on the parents but are these newer parents bringing them up as firmy as we were? There was a time when we behaved better. Shes also a distraction, not needed. The man is DRIVING! And this rude adolescent is in his ear & mind upsetting him to the point of him snaping on her, putting everyone's life at risk. What if he had crashed the bus? She wouldve been responsible for everyone hurt.

And what of the driver? This is a GROWN man. Old enough to have a granddaughter, as he himself said. He should've had better control of his emotions and actions. He looks a good 200lbs easy. She looked a mere 120. How does that compare? How is that fair? Ok, she hit him. But surely her tap was nothing as strong as the lick he gave her. "She wanna be a man, I'll treat her like a man". But thats just the point. Shes NOT a man! The driver isnt either for that matter. A man, REAL man, would NEVER, EVER raise his hand to a female. No matter what she said or what she did, shes still the "Weaker Vessel." He shouldve been "MAN" enough to walk away. Call the police. Hell, get your granddaughter if its that serious. The situation went way too far. I know sometimes we as women provoke it. We may even tell a man, "Go head hit me! I DARE YOU!" Some women are indeed trifling, and may indeed ask for it, but theres never a reason for that.

The comments under the clip and on twitter in response to this is cruel. People are actually applauding his actions, and encouraging other men to do the same. What kinda people are these? To encourage violence of any kind is beastly. They are completely insensitive and it was sickening. Saying things like, "She deserved it," and "Dont give a lick if you cant take a lick." Again, she was wrong. Dead wrong for provoking this. But he isnt in the right either. We cant beat her down for what she did and yet cheer for the wrong he contributed. Women as well, surprisingly. Laughing and making jokes about it. Sure its funny until its them on the other side of a man's fist. Then they want the police, their fathers', brothers, uncles, ANYONE to come & rescue them & lick their wounds. Females, you cant have it both ways, either you're pro domestic violence or you arent.

I grew up with all types of violence around me. Ive seen things I wish could leave my brain matter. Im sure thats why this hurts me so. Lets give our kids more attention, keep them on the straight and narrow so they dont end up like this poor girl. Lets teach them better, male and female. Maybe in time, the pride and respect will return as strong as it was in generations past. That's Dani's Dose for the day!

Can We Say, "Insecure"?

I am a HUGE fan of social networks. Im in love with Twitter, but I confess to cheating with FaceBook every now and then. When I first opened these accounts & for a long time after, I refused to add a pic of myself. Not that I didnt think I was beautiful, but in my mind those I was addressing would listen & actually think about my comments & take them seriously without being distracted by my looks. Since then, I've noticed an overabundance of females with little to no clothing in thier avis. It doesnt really bother me, since Im not interested in anything they have but I admit to being confused. Lets take a moment to ponder the reason WHY they feel the need to advertise. Me myself, I cant relate but maybe its a desperate act for attention. Could it be they think this is the only way for people to notice them, or to make them feel important? *shrugs* Im sorry but a man isnt listening to ANYTHING you say if you have too much for them to see out in the open. All of their attention is focused on the exposure. I can hear these females now, "Please! I dont need attention. I look good & its my business if I want to show off my body." There is a way to show off your body while still being modest. What kind of example are you setting for your daughters? By looking at you, what opinion are your sons forming about women? Are u not realizing that WE as parents are our children's FIRST teachers? Hmmm.... I saw a woman earlier get mad at a guy for telling her she had "nice tits." She called him "disrespectful." First of all, you have these "nice tits" emerging from your attire. It was indeed your goal for them to be seen, no? Second, if its hanging out for all to see, females, WHY GET ANGRY WHEN MEN LOOK!? Isnt that what you want them to do? How is a man NOT supposed to notice when your goodies are on display? Men love women. They're supposed to enjoy the sight of breasts, hips, thighs, & butts.You cant get mad at men for being what they are: MEN. Third, she was disrespecting HERSELF for taking that pic, underdressed & posting it for all the world to see. Females, this does NOT get you that love, honor & appreciation you want from men. They dont think of you as ladies, but tend to assume the oppostite. Sure, you're sexy, but not in a "Oh wow, I want to get to know her better, maybe take her home to Mama" kinda way. But a cruel, "Oh wow, I'd f*** the hell outta her then throw her away" kinda way. My point is, lets leave something to the imagination & be what God intended us to be: LADIES. That's Dani's dose for the day!

Times They Are a Changing

I was raised to respect not only myself, but my elders and everyone else in my presence. Most of us older than 30 was brought up that way, the "old school" "big mama" way. The kinda upbringing where you were whooped by neighbors if you acted up & then brought home to your parents to be beat again. It seemed extreme at the time but as an adult I see how it was beneficial. We were taught honor, obedience, manners. Traits that seem to be rapidly diminishing. I had an experience today that made me question the way we are raising our kids now. I was minding my own business when someone else called me out of my name just because he thought it would be funny to his peers. It was out of the blue and undeserved. This person and I wasnt even engaged in a conversation, but he observed something about me and chose to rudely bring it to my attention. Granted everyone is entitled to their own opinion. But NO ONE has the right to attempt to take a way the self respect of another individual, crushing their feelings in the process. I wondered where he was taught to be so cruel and obnoxious to someone he doesnt even know. This is unheard of in my mind, the way I was brought up. Even if Im thinking something, it would be totally out of line for me to say it aloud. So, I've come to the conclusion that maybe he was without hometraining or he was born wicked. Either way, I forgive his ignorance. My point is, respect one another because the bible says, "You reap what you sow" and the good book NEVER lies. That's Dani's dose for the day!